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he was asked, among other things, what his most embarrassing Twitter experience was. And told a story where I personally got red ears because I would have been so embarrassed:
Vetter wanted to buy underpants and complained about Twitter via the scratchy theft protection. It may be that I as a woman this topic simply a bit more precarious find. But in any case, Cousin passed what was likely to happen to many users: He was not clear who was reading all of them.
What is embarrassing, I determine!
For a few weeks later, during a hearing by one of the assessors at a regional court, he was asked whether it was normal for lawyers to twitter publicly on the web through their underwear. And Cousin was, as he admitted at Twittwoch, but a little embarrassed.
But it turned out that the assessor had sense of humor and was able to laugh about it - presumably because Cousin did not try to negate or mince his embarrassment, but simply stood by it. And tell the story loosely and amusingly today as an anecdote.
Please no hysteria!
Now I don't want to deny that there is a danger that employers will sort out unsuitable applicants based on information. However, I think that shouldn't be the reason for hysteria. This example from the USA shows how quickly this can be done:
There, the State Department warned Columbia University students against making public statements about Wikileaks on the Internet. Reason: A statement on this topic could endanger the career of those who want to join government agencies.
Turn the tables
Comment from a German HR specialist on this text: “It is sad that there are employers who are really that good at it!” That points in the right direction: As a job seeker, you can and should calmly turn the tables - even if that still doesn't seem to be a popular attitude in Germany.
For example, with the question: What does that say about the corporate culture if the employees are spied on in advance? And: Do I really want to work in such a company? Don't I want an employer who gives their employees some confidence? Incidentally, individual companies have already recognized that more and more employees are asking this question - and have committed themselves to only evaluating those application documents that applicants voluntarily provide.
Stand by you!
A recruiter with whom I recently spoke on the subject said that under no circumstances would he not hire an applicant because he found questionable things about him on the Internet. However, it could be that he addresses the applicant in the interview. For example, he would like to know whether the applicant is aware of how this works in public.
Ergo, it is important not to come up with stupid excuses in such a case, but to counter them cleverly, for example when you are confronted with the embarrassment in an interview or with colleagues. Or to stand by yourself. Because what is embarrassing ultimately determines everyone himself!
Five tips for embarrassing situations: laughter instead of embarrassment
// By Simone Janson
It is said of the actress Lilly Palmer that when asked about your face lifting, she said: "Yes, it turned out well, right?" And Düsseldorf lawyer Udo Vetter chats openly about his underwear tweets. Conclusion: I determine what is embarrassing. Or?
In the middle of the fat bowl
Whether in the business or in the private environment, faster than we think you are in the midst of the faux pas. about blaspheming on the floor and the colleague stands behind one? Forgotten the name of the other person when greeting? In the middle of serious conversations drop an inappropriate comment?
For example, during important business lunches: you want to leave a particularly good impression with your new supervisor, you want to be witty and eloquent and have a chat all round. But instead, out of sheer remark, an inappropriate remark about the boss's wife slips out. Unexpectedly, the situation tilts and the previously good and easy mood is over.
Crack point clothes
Apparently, clothing is the sticking point for many people - even if you do not accidentally walk around in a tunic. Personnel service provider OfficeTeam asked 1.300 managers in the US and Canada about their most embarrassing moments in their professional lives.
And most of them say that their own wardrobe is already a disaster: the speaker with an open trouser slit is in front of a big audience, his own shirt is accidentally worn on the left or you notice in the office that you have two different shoes or even the Slippers on.
Laughing fits and wrong ones eMails
But other examples show how quickly a situation can become uncomfortable: These would be laughing fits at meetings, colleagues who blaspheme about a colleague or the boss who is right behind them, personal eMails that accidentally reach the wrong addressee or job promises that be sent to the wrong applicant.
Also happens quickly: In the morning in the hustle and bustle with a wrong buttoned shirt go to work, get hiccup in a meeting due to excitement in a meeting or accidentally locked in the office.
Shit Happens: Seeing embarrassment
Because every one of us always happens big and small embarrassments, whether we want to sink into the next hole. Me too - for example, that I just make it back on an important date but smooth again, aplze on my clothes aplizieren.
Embarrassment happens again and again. But most people make the mistake of wanting to circumvent such grease-pans right from the beginning; but that can only partially work because we are just not perfect. And yet it is always trying convulsively to maintain the perfect picture.
To embarrassment
The better tactic: To stand the embarrassment, react swiftly and laugh at yourself. Because you lose the fear of embarrassment, cramps less and acts more relaxed. This is definitely less embarrassing.
If it happened then and you are standing with both legs in the middle of the fat bowl: Exactly superior: Do you really feel hurt in his honor and dignity? Or is not the incident just a short nuisance that you should not spend too much time thinking about?
What is embarrassing, I determine!
"I determine what is embarrassing!" - According to this motto, embarrassments can also be consciously practiced: simply commit small embarrassments in small, unimportant situations.
You will find that the others are far from being as piquated as they believed. And: Often the reaction of others also depends on how to handle a situation yourself. So whoever stays cool and ready to hit, probably even has the laugh on his side.
Embarrassments on the net
Incidentally, in the age of social media, such embarrassments happened much faster - just think how quickly you got the wrong tweet out. Someone recently tweeted: “Social media proves one thing: we are all human”. And a friend remarked: “It is human”.
The famous Streisand effect shows that it is fatal to want to iron out such misfortunes at any price. This is why they often attract more interest and make themselves ridiculous. Better: Just standing, working or laughing.
Five tips for dealing with embarrassments:
1 To remain calm: In an embarrassing situation everyone would understandably want to run away. But it is better to remain calm, breathe through and then simply continue.
2 To this end: